You can get ahead in life by releasing that which does not belong to you anymore. There are a great number of identities within your being. Which are fighting for prominence right now. A great many different parts of your being which are vying for your attention, but this need not be because your attention should not be divided among parts of your being.
Your attention should be on what your heart is wanting. Your heart not being more important than the rest of your parts, but your heart being a representative, a metaphor, a symbol for that which your entire body, the orchestra of your body, is most desiring.
There is a consensus at a higher level of what your being desires, your heart being the representative of it. Not your brain being the enemy of it, but your brain being you trying to think through logically and rationally, what you “should” want. Whereas your heart knows what you want.
Notice that there’s a difference between those two. One is deciding, one already knows. The only reason that you would need to decide something is when you’re trying to cover up what you already know that you want.
So stop trying to decide what you want and just acknowledge what it is that you want and then go directly for that. There’s no great difficulty in deciding because there’s no decision to be made. Your body already wants things, and what you are learning to do now is to go in accordance with what your body is already wanting.
Now, it’s completely understandable for you to feel confused about this matter because there’s a lot of noise. There’s a lot of signals around what you “should” want, what you “should” not want, what’s “appropriate” to want, what’s not “appropriate” to want, and what you think will get you in one direction versus another direction or what you think will steer you down one path versus another path and get you one outcome versus another outcome.
The truth of the matter is, life is a little bit complicated in that you’re not always going to be able to logically dictate or assess what outcome you’re going to get with what input. Sometimes the input you put in that you think is going to take you, one direction is going to take you in a completely opposite direction. Sometimes you think steering left is going to make you go left, but really it makes you veer to the right. Sometimes, that veering right will bring you all the way back around in a circle and actually take you left. It’s just the left is behind you as opposed to being in front of you as you originally intended.
So really, trying to steer by logic isn’t necessarily the most – ironically – logical thing to do in life. Sometimes you’ve just got to fly by the seat of your pants and trust your gut, trust your body that it knows what it’s doing when it wants certain things and does not want certain things.
Now, of course, this is scary, because this is a very logically dominated society that you’re living in right now which is why you’re in this problem in the first place. There are certain decisions that are deemed “appropriate” or “inappropriate” and certain even ways of thinking, certain thoughts that are “appropriate” and “not appropriate”.
You have a great many boundaries that you need to cross, that you need to be crossing in order to take the leap back over to your own senses, to trust in your own senses, to trust in your own body, to trust in your own intuition, in order to get where you want to go. There’s a relinquishing of this idea that you’re going to be able to steer yourself “straight as the crow flies” to exactly what you want through a logical means.
Therefore, what we would advise is not to think of yourself as a navigator driving a vehicle, but as an object floating in the sea. You know when you’re floating in water, things aren’t necessarily always the most logical. You might paddle your left arm and turn, when really what you wanted to do is move forward. You might paddle your right arm and turn in a circle. Water is not grippy. You don’t have friction in water that allows you to aggressively dictate the direction you’re going.
There’s a certain amount of relaxation that must happen. There’s a certain amount that you have to just let yourself flow and work with the water. Ultimately, if the water wants to push you one direction, you’re not going to swim against it. To do so would be to drown because you would tire yourself out. This is what’s happening with the egos of many people at this point in time. The tide of their being is pushing them in a certain direction, and their ego is trying to push them to swim opposite that. It’s not even their ego so much as it is an internalization of what society around them wants, what society around you wants you to do. That gets internalized, and all of a sudden you find yourself swimming against a stream, an ocean current, a riptide, perhaps.
That’s the opposite of what you want to do. You want to allow yourself to flow downstream of what your body is telling you that it knows it wants. That can feel very scary because, as you know, to survive a riptide, you need to stop resisting and let it carry you wherever it is carrying you.
However, obviously you’re not in control of that in the conscious human embodied sense. And so, where will it take you? You’re only going to find out when you get there. Will you emerge at all? You’ll only find out if you let it happen.
So, your survival is not entirely in your hands. That’s a terrifying process, but ultimately it’s the only thing that you have access to. Your free will may sometimes feel like it’s only ever a choice between survival or death. But sometimes survival in itself is a legitimate enough choice to choose.
So we would encourage you not to fight the current. We would encourage you to figure out, acknowledge, what it is that your body is wanting and to allow yourself to go in that direction without overthinking it. It might just take you exactly where you wanted to go. Albeit in a potentially roundabout way. It may be absolutely terrifying. At the end of the day, as long as you end up where you wanted to be, is that not the ultimate pleasure in life?
You might even find that taking the scenic route will at least lead to the opportunity to tell some entertaining stories later in life. And what a thrilling life indeed, if it would be so boring if we were to always go in directly the only direction that we intended ourselves to go in. Would it not be a bit boring if only ever the things we intended to happen were to happen? So, allow life to be a little bit spontaneous, have a bit of fun with you, throw you around a bit.
Not everything has to be so scary in this process, as you can find some lighthearted jokes, jest, in it. Allow life to toss you around a little bit. It builds character. It’s good for you.